HEARTBREAK

So as you might have noticed in the last few weeks, I’ve not been around which is because of my very recent heartbreak, I like to be open with you guys so I thought it was only right that I open up about it and let you know how I have dealt with it, hopefully it will help some of you who are or may go through the same thing.

In life its inevitable that we will all get our heartbroken at least once but you don’t head into a relationship with that as a priority, we all just live for the moment and ignore the fact that one day our heart could be broken by that person.

I was with my boyfriend for a long time; 7 years to be exact and lived with him for 4 years so it came as a surprise to me when he suddenly told me he was no longer in love with me, I felt completely broken and couldn’t see how on earth I was possibly going to overcome it, I can’t express to you more how important your friends and family are because they are the people who will always be there in those tough times when you feel completely alone. They kept telling me that I would be fine and I would eventually move on but I saw no hope, I couldn’t eat, I couldn’t sleep, I just wanted to curl up and hide. It sounds so dramatic but if you have been through it you will know exactly what I’m talking about.

Eventually I picked myself up and decided that I have so much life ahead of me, I decided that I couldn’t let everything I had worked so hard for disappear, I suggest through experience that you give yourself around a week to cry, trying to force yourself to get back into normality straight away isn’t healthy, its okay to cry and its okay to feel lost and alone but of course eventually you have to have the strength to realise that life goes on and you have to pick yourself up.

I also suggest letting yourself have that alone time, some people want to be alone where some people want to be surrounded by family and friends, it can be such a lonely time, I know when I was at my worst even when I was in a room full of people I felt completely alone because the only person I wanted was him but the thought of actually being physically alone scared me, I didn’t know who I was, I didn’t know how to be without him but eventually I had to say I have to learn to be alone whether it hurts or not and now three weeks later I’m feeling stronger than ever, I feel that I no longer need him and I’m more than happy on my own. It will be different for different people of course, some may need longer but for me I’ve now realised our relationship had come to an end long before it did which makes it so much easier for me to move on.

I also suggest really talking to that person, there’s nothing worse than not knowing why, questioning every single thing that you may have done or said, blaming yourself when the truth is it may be nothing to do with what you have ‘done’ people change and grow and sometimes they grow without you. Of course in a relationship nothing is perfect but instead of thinking about the 3% of stuff that you done wrong, use that to move on, use it to grow and change so that in your next relationship (because you will have one) you can use that three percentage and change it into good.

Relationships are about compromise and some people aren’t willing to, don’t settle for anything, we all deserve the best and there will always be someone out there who loves us for exactly who we are.

If you’re going through the same thing and just want to talk about it then please get in touch with me, I’m more than happy to talk to you through such a sad time.

I will be back as scheduled very soon! So sorry for taking so much time out but like I’ve said above, its so important to put yourself first in times like this.

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UNIVERSITY: DO I OR DONT I?

As you may or may not already know, I’m heading to my third year of University and this time of year reminds me of the beginning and how freaked out I was, I’ve heard that there has been a record amount of people applying for higher education and thought this post may be just what you need.

Here’s my take on the life changing decision. I didn’t ever really decide to go to University and never really understood anything about it either, it wasn’t until I got to my third year of college that my tutors told me to apply that I realised how confused I really was about the whole thing. I was on an Art & Design course and always thought I would head into the world of Photography but at the last minute I realised how my interests had changed, so without really over thinking I applied for something I had never even thought about, Fashion Design. I know, seems crazy right? I thought so to.

Eventually I received interview offers and went to them without second thought, again. I guess I felt not going to University was just not an option, not because it wasn’t but because nobody really told me any different.

I went to my first interview and was like a duck out of water, everyone had files of designs and garments and there I was with my art work (I almost ran out, I felt ridiculous) the interview didn’t go well to say the least, luckily it wasn’t my first choice.

Before my next interview (to the Uni I really wanted to go to) I decided to start a book of designs, just something that would show my potential and luckily for me, it did. I was given a chance and here I am today about to go into my third year.

What I am saying is University is a decision only you can make and yes, it is a decision. University isn’t for everyone and even if you do apply and get a month into the course and hate it, then make the right decision for you. University fees are unreal so you have to really want to be there, don’t spend your life paying off debts that weren’t worth the bother.

For me, even after my hasty application, I have never made a more right decision in my life. The course I am on is incredible and I have really learnt so much.

So if you are starting University, good luck! Do it for you.